Wedding Traditions That You Can Ignore
(or not - you do YOU!)
Okay, KIDDING, but we’ve all had our opinions about other people’s weddings - RIGHT?!
But now it’s time for YOU to make the calls. So what will it be?
Here are some age-old traditions for you to consider in your planning process:
Tossing the bouquet, or even having bouquets at all
The tradition of bouquets came from - guess what? Covering a woman's BO back in the day. Lol. But they are certainly gorgeous, so do what suits you.
The Wedding Garter
Coordinating an event with the wedding garter is not a necessity, so don't fret over thinking it's a MUST to incorporate. But if you find it fun, then go get ‘em!
Inviting guests out of obligation
Ooh, don't get me started on this one LOL. Invite who matters to you at THIS time in you and your partner's lives.
Having children there
Just be gentle with how you announce this, if you do cut the kiddos. Something like, "Although we adore your children, due to budget/space constraints, we ask that only adults attend."
Your MOH organizing your bach party
This sounded GREAT to me, but if you aren't a lover of surprises, by all means - plan your own party!
Having the traditional schedule of day
Want to do yoga in the morning, or swing by your favorite restaurant at 2pm? Want to skip the night party and make it a brunch and lawn games-type-of-day at the lake? The possibilities are endless.
Doing a first dance
This was very special to me personally, but if staying on rhythm in front of hundreds of people terrifies you, then skip the heck out of it.
Your parents paying
If family offers to gift you with funds, that is so wonderfully generous. However, it is important to have the conversation upfront before booking vendors to keep expectations under control so you don’t end up like this:
The veil
This can be a beautiful accessory but may not fit the vibe for some brides. Don't feel obliged to this and do what makes you feel pretty.
Bridesmaids matching // Or even having bridesmaids
Are you sensing the theme around here yet? Just do what screams YOU.
Looking for ways to save money? Try cutting these traditional aspects:
Having a wedding cake
Having favors
Sending save the dates
Making menu cards and other custom stationery or signage.
Throughout your wedding journey, remember to ask yourselves the question,
“Is this Us?”
often. That will help legitimize each & every decision.